# Cultivating Generosity: Giving What’s Right, Not What’s Left

- Link: https://fundraising.co.uk/books/cultivating-generosity-giving-whats-right-not-whats-left/
- Published: 2014-03-07T07:55:15+00:00
- Author: Howard Lake

**A book about cultivating generosity from a generous lay leader and donor, rather
than from a professional fundraiser or clergy leader. **

Money pervades all aspects of our lives, but we dare not discuss it for fear of 
touching the proverbial third rail. The discomfort we experience may be that it 
reveals more than we want it to. All individuals fear rejection and want acceptance.
And money becomes the agent of compensation, the hopium of the masses.

But it is a false hope. Money is extrinsic and can only buy external things. Money
simply cannot buy the things most worth having. Wherever there is pain or embarrassment,
there is essential learning to be done.

Stokes believes churches should address the stranglehold that money has on our attitudes.
Churches cannot be truly relevant to their members real-life issues without addressing
the money dimension that underlies their attitudes and behaviours.

You cannot compartmentalise a person into secular and spiritual categories without
damaging his or her wholeness. This book addresses that issue head on.

Churches need programmes that let money permeate the environment in a wholesome 
and constructive way. Those programmes should help overcome the reluctance to discuss
money and cultivate a culture of generosity.

This book provides a set of exercises and a rationale for churches to achieve these
goals, moving members from self-interest to self-esteem.

## Reviews

“Rem Stokes knows more about the psychology of donors and has demonstrated that 
insight over more years than a whole busload of ministers and consultants put together.
If you want to understand how to change the culture of your congregation or group
in the direction of abundance, not scarcity, this is your guidebook.”
**Rev. John
Buehrens**, former president of the Unitarian Universalist Association